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Discussion: Crave Book + Buy Book = Put It Away? Or how do I finally start reading that one??

Now I know this is going to resonate with some of you strongly. Jackie @ Death By Tsundoku has a whole blog named after this phenomenon. Cait @ Paper Fury has mentioned to me time and again the intricacies of her delicate relationship with Gemina as well. I could pull up more examples, but you all know what I’m talking about here – this post will be about the phenomenon of craving a book first and then… somehow never getting to it?

So I’ve decided to look at it through the seasons of the book. Yes, I’m just trying to be fancy here.

sir cat

In more simple language, I mean to go through the stages we all experience when this phenomenon takes place and see how much you can relate. Mmkay? So let’s go.

Stage 1. Crave book madly

give it to me

We go through this stage regardless of us being able to get a book later on or not. It’s one of those we just must acquire. Our lives depend on it, and help us God if we don’t somehow make it possible for ourselves to obtain the dream.

Stage 2. Invest time/money into getting book

throwing money

Once we finally make up our minds we’re getting it, no matter what/how much it costs, we waste no time to get to action. It’s as good as ours now.

Stage 3. Embrace book, Bookstagram it, dance with it

disney princess dance

I would venture to say that this could be the happiest moment you’ll ever have with the book. You caress its beautiful pages and cover. You carry it around with you as if it was a wee lass, entrusted to your care. You pet it like a kitty. Might as well dance with it when the shades are drawn. NOBODY WILL KNOW. But you don’t start reading it. Oooooh noooo, not yet. Have you no decency?

Stage 4. Stare at book for 2 weeks

I've got my eyes on you

This is the bit where it starts getting confusing. You wanted the book. You have the book. You are not reading the book. What..? Your system doesn’t quite compute, but you are too puzzled to fight yourself over it. So you try to just wait it out. “The time will come.”

Stage 5. Fail to start reading it

But the time doesn’t come! It’s been a month, maybe… Maybe even more! You’re getting truly uncomfortable now. You’ve taken all the possible Bookstagram pics from any angle you can conceive of, you’re tweeted every single detail about it (…and how you crave to start reading it, any day now…), but… The time just doesn’t come. You quietly put the book away. Lest it stare at you at night. And silently move away from the shelf. #theshame

cone of shame

Stage 6. Wonder about self

This bit should really happen to any single one of you who still has a #bookworm heart. If some of you don’t reach this stage after leaving the book all alone like that, then… You either deserve respect, or pity. Cause either you’ve dealt with your bookish conscience so well you don’t need no man… err, anyone telling you how to live. Or, you just don’t have any #bookish heart anymore.

grinch heart

So these are the stages of getting a craved book, but never reading it. Have you experienced those? Maybe I missed one? I want to hear all your opinions of it. And share my post please!

I’m Evelina and I try to blog about books that matter, with a bit of fun there too! Disability and equality will be topics you see a lot, but there’s also a lot of scifi, fantasy and… GIFs. I’m also the proud founder of #ARCsAnonymous.

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Layla
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Yes, yes, and YES!! This is so accurate. Many times I have bought a book in the sheer craving of “I NEED THIS DESPERATELY NOW” and then….and then….I look at it sadly on the shelf and feel like a terrible book owner, especially if I end up peering at it over the pages of my current read. Totally accurate gifs too, I feel your book craving pain!

Paul Liadis
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I have a large pile on my nightstand that can confirm this phenomenon. And a bookcase or three.

Lyse
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Oh, these are definitely the stages. I’m so guilty of this. My preorders of ACOMAF, Frost Like Night, Windwitch, and The Rose & the Dagger are all still sitting on my TBR. So why do we do this? Well, in my case, I think there are three related reasons: 1. I hate hype. I think even my self-hype makes me weird about a book. 2. I’m anxious. I’m scared of feeling so much (because honestly, fictional people/animals/aliens make me feel WAY more than real hoomans). Or I’m scared of the story ending. Or maybe stuff I don’t even know. 3.… Read more »
Hana Bilqisthi
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This is so relatable 😀 I have 20 books on my shelf under this condition. Yku explained the stages really well 😀

Lark @ The Bookwyrm's Hoard
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I can sort of relate… but not completely. I do sometimes crave books, but I either buy them or borrow them from the library or put them on my wish list so someone can give them to me. To be honest, I’ve been buying a lot fewer print books new in the last few years; I’ve been buying more Kindle books (because of either print size, lack of shelf space, or—the most frequent reason—they go on sale.) And I buy used books at the library booksale. So there are only a handful anymore that I crave and have to spend… Read more »
Darby
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SO RELATABLE. I totally understand all of these stages. This was such an entertaining and fun post!

Darius Jung
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I totally know what you mean! I think there’s a real collector’s mentality to it. The thrill is in the collecting and once you’ve got it, it’s on to the next alluring thing. I used to be the same way with DVDs, when that was a thing. Nowadays it’s my Netflix watch list that’s huge….

Grab the Lapels
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I think the problem with me is I stumble on a lot of books I want all at once, so when I get them, I think about how much I want to read them in a longing crush-y sort of way. The reason I don’t, though is because I have other books to read that are older. So, the problem becomes always reading older books instead of new ones. I mean, I was so psyched to read Tampa by Alyssa Nutting. It was everywhere in the news. It was mega controversial. Ugh…her new book just came out a couple of… Read more »
Dani
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This is so terribly accurate! Buyers remorse to a point. When we react to visual charm and mass mentality… it makes me crazy when I do this! Great post ❤️

Laura Thomas
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I don’t feel so all alone now! I can come out of the book closet! I do this too often. And now I’ll probably drwam about it tonight. About books all yelling at the same time, “READ ME!” LOL Great discussion

Sam @ WLABB
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This was amusing, but there was so much truth in there. I know I have a bunch of books that fit this category. I wanted them so much, I drooled over bookstagram pictures and was jealous that I did not have it, but then I get it, and I don’t read it, because I am trash.

Tammy @ Books, Bones & Buffy
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Oh yes, this does sound familiar! But I have an excuse, personally. I’ve always considered myself a book collector, and sometimes you just don’t READ the books you collect. You just don’t! You have to buy a “reading copy” (like a paperback) and only read that. But many times I’ve been so excited about a new book and yep, I never got to it for whatever reason. Sad:-(

Danielle
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Yes! I do this way more often than I would like to admit!
I nominated you for the Liebster Award. It’s right here if you’d like to check it out! Liebster Award

Cora @ Tea Party Princess
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Hahaha that is completely accurate. I do this far too often.
So many poor, abandoned books. I needed them so badly at the time, but now they sit pretty on my shelves, perpetually unread.
Cora ❤ http://www.teapartyprincess.co.uk/

Haniya
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WHY IS THIS SOOOOOOOOOO FRIGGIN ACCURATE! Not gonna lie this happened to me with Illuminae! I got my aunt to buy it for from US and when I got it I ended up bookstagramming & tweeting about it & reading it 3 months later. This happens with me LIKE SO MUCHHHH! I love this post!! Now I gotta tweet this post! XD

Jenny
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Hahaha! Great post and I can definitely resonate with this. There’s been so many books I’ve wanted for ages and ages, finally got and then they sit there on my shelf for months. Some even YEARS.

Liana @ Will Read for Feels
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If and when I hit stage 4 (and I don’t read the book within two weeks of buying it), chances are low (probably around 30%) that I’ll ever read it. Knowing this about myself, I try to only buy when I have definite plans of reading the book immediately. Of course, “try” is the operative word here, because my Kindle app will attest to my book hoarding hobby.

Jackie B.
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EXACTLY EXACTLY EXACTLY What is this madness?! This is how I ended up in this predicament in the first place. I more or less have nightstands and end tables which are purely piles of books (don’t worry, we have lots of coasters in the house). I have a book I acquired from Blogging for Books back in MARCH I haven’t read. Oh, the shame! And I do it with ARC’s too. Why do you think I don’t share my NetGalley badge? Because otherwise it will tell you the sadness which is my TBR ARC pile. So embarrassing considering how many… Read more »
Cait @ Paper Fury
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THIS IS SO RELATABLE. THIS IS LIKE 100% MEEEEE. The amount of books (particularly sequels!) I have that I was “desperate and dying for” and then promptly put them on the TBR never to be seen again… It’s terrible. I mean, I will get to them?! But also omg give me strength. *sobs*

Karen
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Oh YES! I have Dreams of Gods and Monsters and Crooked Kingdom (special edition boxed set!) glaring at me from my shelves right now as I type. I had to have them but have barely given them a second look since they arrived.

I’m getting much better about it but it still happens to me.

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Ali
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Hahahaha, this is 100% accurate!

Jordan @ The Heart of a Book Blogger
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YES, there are so many unread books on my shelves that I was dying to read…but now that they’re out I never got to. One of my biggest struggles right now is getting to sequels. Before I started blogging, I would binge read whole series at a time, which I loved to do. Now I’ll read and love the first book, but then wait a year+ for the next and have a hard time getting motivated to start it. A huge part of this is definitely how so many books come out each month and having hardly anytime to read… Read more »
Christine
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Loooooove this. No truer words have ever been written, I tell you what. I have SO many books on my shelves that I could not buy fast enough. I idolized them for months leading to their release and jumped for joy when it was finally time to acquire them. Unfortunately 99% of the time I was in the middle of another book when I buy it and promise I’ll read it next. Then that never happens…. I don’t understand this phenomenon AT ALL but alas, it happens so many times.

The Story Sponge
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This is a humorous post, but one laced with bitterness. The sad truth is that there are so many books and so little time! I know that is a tired saying, but that does not belittle its accuracy.

Jamie
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I do this all the time! I’ve been training myself recently to just wait to pick the books up at the library instead of spending more money. I think my mentality is, well I bought the book so I can wait until I finish some library book or ARC/review request book that has more of a deadline. Then I just… Don’t always end up going back to the book I bought because I’m hyped for something else.

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Amanda @Cover2CoverMom
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Ahhhhhhh excellent post! The relatability factor is strong with this one lol I am so ridiculously guilty of this… EVERY. DAMN. Month. I buy a ridiculous amount of books that I am super excited to read, then I just don’t read them…. BUT they are still nice to look at…. Seems reasonable right? I think I classify myself as a “book hoarder” at this point 🙂

Lin
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HAHAHAAHAH OMGGGG this is sooo accurate!!! Just bought a few books 2 classics that I craved reading the original and full version of Peter Pan and The Little Prince (even though I have re-read the later one for like 20th time!!) and I bought also Neil Gaiman’s The ocean at the end of the lane and The fault in our stars. Now these were books I was craving for however after having them in my possession I just went through all the stages you have soo accurately mentioned. Although I must say that last month I finally read The fault… Read more »
Kristen @ Metaphors and Moonlight
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Oh yes, I have done this LOL. Usually it’s with ebooks, but I did buy the hard covers of the six of crows duology earlier this year, and I still haven’t read them. Apparently this is a phenomenon that no bookworm can escape 😛

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Lola
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This happens to me quite often, I blame all the other books I also want to read real badly. There are just so many good books out there and it’s hard to get to them all. And thus it happens often books I am really excited about stay on my shelves unread for a long time. I also have this problem that I like having some unread books that I know I am going to enjoy and often keep a few books like that for the right moment.

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Jenna @ Falling Letters
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This is a very curious phenomenon, isn’t it? Although I don’t understand it at all, I have certainly experienced all these stages before! I think Stage 7 for me might be “Read book five years later” 😛

Ivyclad Ideas
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No. No, I don’t think I have this problem. Not at all… (My TBR is about to fall and crush me. Send help.)

Esther @ Queen of Fantasy
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Hahaha oh my goodness STAHPPPPP this is much too accurate to be fair. I do this all the time. Well. Not ALL the time because I am fairly poor as a lowly student (just imagine the damage I could do with a real paycheck…*shudders*) but I probably do this more often than I should and even more often than I want to admit haha

Terri @ Alexia's Books and Such
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Totally embarrassed how many books I just HAD to have IMMEDIATELY, but never actually got around to reading. Maybe just owning them is enough? Or maybe I’m just making excuses because, well, the shame sometimes gets to me….

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kris @ lemon-notes
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Omg haha I’m loving that fancy cat. He is the fanciest of all cats. Sir fancy cat, I deem him! Also, I definitely do carry around a new book with me like it “was a wee lass entrusted to my care” Your phrasing on that point is spot on 😀 I’m really bad about this when it is a super hyped up book, or when it’s sequel!! This increases ten fold when it’s a super hyped up sequel. HOWEVER, I actually read BOTH Illuminae and Gemina in this month, and I must say I am incredibly proud of myself. This… Read more »
Julie Wright
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I concur with this totally!
I am not too sure why we do it?
I do not think that you have missed any, however, I have been known to have kept a book for so long, that it got all dusty and then found its way into the charity shop, because I just could not get into it after all that!
weirdly enough alot of Alexander Bracken books, Passenger being on of them.

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Angelica @ Paperback Princess
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I resonate with this post so much! I’ve got a massive bookshelf with 6 rows and the size of about 2.5 normal shelf and 80% of my books are unread! Then to make matters worse I buy more books AND borrow from the library….I cannot understand so I’m at least glad I’m not on my own

Hana Bilqisthi
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OMG This post is so relatable XD I am definitely going this phase a lot XD