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[Weekly wrapup] A Cold, Loads of Work and Some Reading Sunday post #71

You know how the week after vacation goes. It always slips by, and you have no clue where it went. Especially if you have to catch up with the work because it wasn’t getting done during all the time you’ve been gone! AND you have a cold. But it’s alright, I wasn’t expecting anything else! Post-vacation blues, haha. But even having come back, I still find it hard getting back to the blogging routine. I feel weirdly disconnected. Maybe I just need to go blog hopping?

I also wanted to share my Instagram photo this week that I’m really proud of. I’m mostly proud of it because it’s got my face in it, and I never felt like I’d be gutsy enough to actually put myself out there! Also, it’s a photo for a post that is really important to me – about how we should not portray bullying in positive light or romanticize the victim/abuser relationship, which is still a popular trope in fiction, as well as the media. Please read the post here!


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This is going to be on the controversial side, but I’ve decided to speak up about how certain ways to portray #romance in the media can be incredibly damaging to people who have been bullied – especially women because of how our society sets it up. When in the wrong hands, this trope teaches little girls that it’s alright to be bullied and love (or more like belong to) their tormentors. Because that’s apparently what a woman’s life is? This post comes straight from my heart, soul, bones and blood – because I was once a child like that. And I’m afraid of you reading it. But I have to say it. Please don’t tear me apart, here’s my discussion post: You can also find the link in my bio. I feel like it should be talked about. Raise awareness. Tell your author friends. We must stop teaching little girls that it’s okay to love your tormentors. #booktrope #braveme #faery #empoweringwomen #romancetropes #enemiestolovers #amreading #bookdiscussion #books #hippiestyle #badromance #feminist #girlpower #empowergirls Oh gosh, I’m struggling with these here hashtags, huh 😂

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~ We Need To Talk About Some Books I’m Reading ~

I’ve been into middle grade books lately. It’s because I need some more hope and light in my day to day, and I’m tired of reading books that bring me down. Middle grade fiction just seems to have all the right values, as well as the hopeful tone I so crave these days. I’ve been reading one such book that I’m really enjoying, and I’ll be reviewing it at the start of October, but there is no need to wait to present it to you all! The Extremely Inconvenient Adventures of Bronte Mettlestone seems to have all the right values, and it manages to talk about so many things – loss, grief, depression, but then again – adventure, strong will and fun! I am finding this book to be really spectacular right now, and way more than I thought it was going to be when I just started it. Very good for little girls, as well as mostly-adult-little-girls (I mean if you refuse to grow up like me.)

The Extremely Inconvenient Adventures of Bronte Mettlestone by Jaclyn Moriarty

~ Last Week On The Blog ~

Last week on the blog we had two theatre related books – The Town in Bloom, which I simply adored, because I loooooove Dodie Smith, and Playing to the Gods, an amazing and colorful bit of theatre history – the two women who shaped acting as it is today. Then, I also had a discussion post, the first one in a long time! I was both excited and anxious to post it, because it dealt with a very sensitive topic of bullying. I have already linked it above – it’s about why authors should take utmost care when writing enemies to lovers, because it’s a trope that’s very, very easy to slip on and write it in a damaging way.

town in bloom playing to the gods  enemies to lovers

~ Coming Up Next Week~

Coming up next week, I’ll have mini reviews again! Including Crooked Kingdom. I will also have a review of a wonderful middle grade book called Sleep, Merel, Sleep. I can wholeheartedly recommend that book. It was amazing!

mini reviews 2  sleep merel sleep

~ Little Book Haul ~

I only hauled one book last week, but it’s an amazing one. I saw it on Cheeky Lines and got on NetGalley right away, because it’s just my type of book. It’s called A Year of Living Kindly, and it talks about how little changes can make a huge difference, and how easy it is to actually strive to be a kinder person – no matter what your origins, culture or regilion. I was surprised to find how much this book matched my values and how much I’ve forgotten about this point of view in the past year. I am getting back into it, and I can recommend this book to all of you.

The Sunday Lunch Club

So how has your week been? And what are you reading? What did you haul?

As usual, I’m linking up with the Sunday post meme at Kimba’s book blog and Stacking The Shelves over at Tynga’s Reviews.

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2 years ago

Good for you Avalinah on your bullying/ romance trope post. I’m going to read that next but just wanted to say nicely done on your IG post- nice to see that being said. I agree too about middle grade- sometimes they’re just such a positive read, and that’s nice to see once in a while.

Happy Sunday!

ERK @Musings of a Confuzzled Reader
ERK @Musings of a Confuzzled Reader
2 years ago

Wishing you a speedy recovery The first week after vacation is the most horrible simce it involves dragging yourself to your routine when your body is actually shouting for you to stop

Looks like you had a great week reading wise at least! Also, those are great discussion posts! Off to check them

2 years ago

I hope you’re feeling better from your cold, Evelina.

I’ve been wanting to plunge into middle grade books lately – I’m currently waiting for my copy City of Ghosts to arrive. YA and Adult books have so much angst and sadness – and love triangles and relationships that drive me nuts.

Happy readings! 😉
Tânia @MyLovelySecret

2 years ago

Oh enemies to lovers that was an interesting topic. I mean I kind of like those stories but yes they’re not okay like nope. Like I know it’s wrong but not everyone does. Hmm. Uhh colds. Get well soon!

2 years ago

Umm good question. Eventually I think it’s about trauma and then healing but yea why fall for the bully or enemy when you could totally fall for nonabusive type… And then some guys bully you because they like you but they take it too far. I don’t know have to think about this more.

Nicci @ Sunny Buzzy Books

My week started off with an awesome read – 10 Reasons to Stay – but then went downhill when I moved onto my next book as I just couldn’t get into it. In fact, I really didn’t like it and it made me not want to read but I couldn’t DNF as it was a review copy and I always finish those :/

I’ll be sure to check out your bullying / enemies-to-lovers post as I actually like the enemies-to-lovers trope and it’ll be interesting to see your thoughts!

2 years ago

You already know how I feel about bullying/abuse in any form, and the fact that people glorify it or sweep it under the carpet is so ridiculous. Your picture is absolutely stunning and hope you post more pictures of yourself! Coming back from vacation is always a nightmare. It seems like there is so much to catch up on, making you want to take another vacation.(lol) Hugs and Happy Sunday! RO

Sim @ Flipping Through the Pages

I am glad you cold has gone now and that you are feeling better. Coming back from a different place always does that to me 😛 But I am so happy that you enjoyed your trip so much.

I loved your discussion post this week. Ahh, I too want to read some middle-grade books. It’s been a long time since I have read one. I always enjoy them.

Have a lovely week 🙂

2 years ago

Hi Avalinah! Sounds like you had a nice week, minus the cold.

Your post from last week is probably one of my favorite posts I have read during the first week of September. As difficult as it must have been for you to write, I hope to read more posts from you that tackle important issues <3 After all, we do not speak up about these things, then change won't ever happen, right?

2 years ago

Vacations are so awesome, but post vacation catch up is tough! I did a little MG binge recently, and what I love is the way the MG authors tackle the subjects. I feel like they do it so well, while sometimes, I feel like YA and adult authors can be too heavy handed. Definitely happy with all my recent MG reads. Bronte sounds fabulous and like something I would really enjoy.

2 years ago

Damn Dani has the flu, you got a cold and my daughter got a cold as well! What is it with September??? Now I loved your post about enemies to lover and congrats on your “selfie”! I am like you I hate doing selfie (but I have excuses as I am much older than you LOL) Happy Sunday Evelina!

Susan Crosb
2 years ago
Reply to  Sophie

Thank you for the suggestion… can’t wait for the review of crooked kingdom and loved the tropes review… recognized by so many and well deserved!

Tammy @ Books, Bones & Buffy

That photo is very powerful, thanks for sharing it

Kimberly @ Caffeinated Reviewer

I always have a hard time adjusting after returning home from vacation. I hope you fall back into the swing of things soon, especially the reading part 🙂

Laurel-Rain Snow
2 years ago

Great Instagram post! I do worry about bullying in a romantic arrangement…

Thanks for sharing, and enjoy your books. Thanks for visiting my blog.

2 years ago

That IG photo is stunning. I can’t believe I missed it online! Ugh. I’m seriously starting to hate their algorithm.
I completely understand on the whole feeling disconnected. I’m having a hard time getting back into blogging after our move. It’s like pulling teeth to get me to sit down and focus.

2 years ago

I hope you are feeling better and have a great week!

Laura Thomas
2 years ago

My review for Sleep, Merel, Sleep will go up this week too. A lovely read. Sorry you caught a cold. And I know what you mean about the return from a vacation. I seem to be more tired, less ambitious afterwards. Hope you find your mojo!

My Sunday Post

2 years ago

Oh wow, I love your Instagram photo (so pretty) and just the post in general. I think it’s messed up that we still romanticize the abuser/abused relationship in books and movies, etc. It’s not right and it sends SUCH a bad message to people reading or viewing it who might not know or hear any better. Good for you for posting!


Aj @ Read All The Things!

I love the photo! I’m not brave enough to put photos of myself out there. I never like how I look in them. I’m glad you found some good MG. Enjoy your new book! It sounds like one I should read.

Carole @ Carole's Random Life in Books

My work just piles up on my desk when I am gone. Nobody does any of it so coming back from vacation (or sick leave) is a bit overwhelming. Hopefully next week will be better at work! Great photo and a even great message. I hope you have a great week!

2 years ago

Too bad about the cold, hopefully you’ll feel better soon. I did see your IG post and thought your picture is beautiful. I do read enemies to friends trope, and I have mixed feelings about it. Like you mentioned, it should be written the right way and not hurtful/abusive. I also think that authors need to be much more aware of what they are writing when it a YA book. I have problems with the romance books with a strong alpha male character. I do enjoy alpha male books, if it’s done correctly. I feel some authors go a little… Read more »

Barb (boxermomyreads)
2 years ago

Vacations are always like that – they go way to fast. Hope you are feeling better. That’s a great picture!

Kaleena @ Reader Voracious

I love that IG photo, great job! I am still so proud of you for your discussion post, and I hope you are feeling better!

2 years ago

Beautiful picture! <3 You also made a good point about romanticized bullies!

Olivia-Savannah Roach
2 years ago

I hope you do enjoy the book you got and that your cold gets better! Back to work and falling back into a blogging routine is never easy but I hope you can do it. I don’t read middle grade much anymore, but I am glad it’s working out for you ^.^ They can have some really wonderful values in there ^.^

Michelle Gilmore
2 years ago

I have been craving MG books lately for that exact reason, they are really the perfect little palette cleansers and pick-me-ups. Your IG photo is lovely and I’m glad someone is speaking out about the troupe that always toes that line of being problematic.

2 years ago

I made you get a book again, ha ha! To be honest every time I write my Stacking the Shelves I ask myself what books you will be interested in and I am always curious to see what you get. I am in the same place with middle grade books – I just cannot get enough of them!

I hope the cold is gone by now – I am always late when it comes to commenting, sorry!
Have a lovely week!

Nicole @ Feed Your Fiction Addiction

The Extremely Inconvenient Adventures of Bronte Mettlestone looks really good – I’ll have to check that one out! And good for you for stepping out of your comfort zone for your post about bullying.

2 years ago

I hope you feel better soon and can get back in the swing of things. Anne – Books of My Heart

2 years ago

Here’s hoping you got over that cold quick and that life starts to feel normal again. I need to start taking a look into MG books since my oldest is almost 8 and devours books so fast. Another year or two and he’ll be ready to read Harry Potter eeps!! Here’s hoping you find more that you love in that category!